I know, I know. I already did this in this post about leaving Facebook, right? I am completely satisfied with my decision to leave. The problem is, these issues keep popping up in my life. I keep being included in the problems, so I am going to vent about them some more.

1) Forced Reciprocity: If you are my friend, I have to be your friend? Why? Real life isn’t like this. I might be very interested in my friend’s life, and he might not care what I am doing. It’s actually one reason I like twitter ( @soysaucesam). I can listen to the people I want, and the people that want to listen to me can do so.

2) Family Conflict: It went through my family, and I have since been a part of 2 more conversations about Facebook-induced family conflict. Siblings must be friends, parents must oversee the conversations their 16+ year old children are having, someone saw a post from someone else and told another person that made the first person mad because the first person wasn’t supposed to see it even if the first person was being rude to the other person because its true that’s really how they acted but the point is they didn’t have to go telling them about it.

Families on Facebook is like a never-ending road trip in a too-small station wagon. All the hassle with absolutely no benefit in the end.

3) Worlds Colliding: Its a term from Seinfeld, when George’s girlfriend started hanging out with his friend. Relationship George will kill Independent George!

This wasn’t an issue on Facebook until about a year ago. That’s when relatives a generations or two older than me got accounts. Now I try to be a person of integrity without secrets, but I am friends with a lot of people with different lifestyles than mine. I pride myself on that fact. Do I really want my Aunt to hear what I am saying to my high school friends? Or people from Church groups hearing comments from my pothead friends? Do I want my pre-teen neighbor to whom I gave guitar lessons hearing jokes from my coworkers?

Smaller kids didn’t understand, so mostly I blame old people. You didn’t kill Facebook, but you didn’t really respect the natural social circles, and that hurt it. If you saw me out at a restaurant with a group of friends, you would probably say hello and move on. You wouldn’t pull up a seat and ask if anyone ordered mozzarella sticks yet. But that’s what you did with Facebook. See why that’s weird?

OK, that’s about it.